frequently asked questions
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how it works
Choose a free conversation, or a paid session — whatever fits where you are right now.
Book a time that works for you.
Receive your video link, sent directly from me.
Meet privately, wherever you feel comfortable.
Talk as much, or as little, as you want.
Decide afterwards whether you'd like to continue. No pressure either way.
about the conversations
No. Holding Space offers peer support and conversation — not psychotherapy, clinical counselling, or medical treatment. Many people find it works well alongside therapy, not instead of it.
Holding Space is open to any man living with HIV, whatever his sexuality. It's LGBTQ+ affirming, and built to include everyone who needs it.
I can be a steady, understanding presence for anything you're carrying — disclosure, dating, loneliness, family, or just the day-to-day weight of living with HIV. I've completed formal training in peer support and safeguarding. I'm not a therapist or doctor, so I won't diagnose, prescribe, or treat anything — and if what you're carrying needs more than a conversation can hold, I'll say so, and help you find the right person to turn to.
trust & safety
Yes. One-to-one conversations are treated as strictly confidential, except in the rare case of a serious and immediate risk to your safety or someone else's. The full privacy & confidentiality page covers this in more detail.
if you're in crisis right now
Holding Space isn't a crisis service, and a session isn't the right place for an emergency. If you're at risk of harming yourself or need urgent support, please contact one of the services listed below right now — you don't have to wait for our next conversation. I'll still be here for the ongoing conversation once you're safe.
No, not by either of us, and never without written agreement from everyone involved beforehand.
booking & logistics
Yes — free of charge up to 48 hours beforehand. Inside that window, the session fee still applies, though I'll always use discretion if something genuinely unexpected comes up.
Yes. Holding Space is run entirely online and open to men anywhere in the world.
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